Ever wondered how a sex coach decides to make sex their job? Athena Mae found her unlikely calling as a teenager, when friends came to her with their questions. Then she started teaching body-positive sex education. This is what 20 years of shedding myths about sex and body size has taught her. And, yep, she tells it straight
The secrets of fat sex
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I am 40, my partner is 38 and we have been together since we started working for the same large charity organisation three years ago. He eats himself silly. I met my lover quite by chance on a birthday night out with some friends. We went to a pub for drinks before having a meal. My handbag kept falling on the floor and this guy picked it up for me. The gang I was with was getting noisier and he asked me what the celebration was for.
Fat women more likely to have had sex
Many years before I got together with my boyfriend, I had a sex thing with this guy that I thought was relationship-material. He not only had an amazing body but a great personality as well. I was honest when I met him that I was looking for something more than just sex, and he led me to believe that was what he wanted, too. Between having mind-blowing sex, we ordered home delivery, played video games, and watched movies — couple-y type things but without the label.
I was 16, a size 14 and it was —long before body positivity hit the mainstream or my Tumblr feed. Now, as a year-old woman wearing a size 20, sex has changed year after year as my body has gotten bigger and the dating pool has gotten smaller. Before fucking someone new, I feel the need to address my fatness before we meet.