Naturally, when stepping into any European country—be it Spain or Switzerland—as Americans, it's uncertain how we'll be viewed. Will we be seen as the loud Americans or the friendly Americans? Or, heaven forbid, the unfashionable Americans? Recently I wrote a piece about what it was like dating French men , asking various English-speaking women what the main differences were.
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USA vs. Europe: Dating
I was three months into my new life in Berlin and very happy to be dating a German. How authentic , I thought to myself. This dinner invite would be our fourth date. The previous ones had gone swimmingly: I cycled over to his Kreuzberg apartment with a smile on my face. I wondered what Deutsch delicacies would await me. The smell of onion pervaded the air as I approached his apartment.
European Dating Culture
A friend of mine, a fellow European, summarized how relationships on opposite sides of the Atlantic Ocean work in a comical, but also pretty accurate way: In Europe both are both. Well, for one, it has obvious, superficial reasons, such as the typically super-white teeth and perfectly groomed appearances that Americans tend to have compared to their more natural-yet-not-necessarily-better-looking European counterparts. But then again, Americans tend to dress up less often and like wearing their sneakers and sweatpants everywhere without ever being judged, a level of a relaxed attitude I would sometimes like to see in my own country.
Fed up with your local dating scene? If so, you're almost certainly not alone. Dating-related fatigue and frustration are common among single-but-trying-to-mingle people. And with certain aggravating dating trends becoming increasingly common — like " benching " and " stashing " — it's not hard to imagine why.